Managing Fear, Hatred and Dislike – some ideas

  1. Try to be aware of negative feelings arising and spot their origins.
  2. Slow down.
  3. Use role models – if you know you have a bias against a category of persons, for example, find another example that counteracts your negative view and consciously bring them to mind.
  4. Get to know people as individuals, not members of categories, find an example that counteracts your negative view and consciously bring them to mind.
  5. Take a perspective – imagine walking in another person’s shoes, see things from their point of view or experience.
  6. Have contact with a wider circle of people, talk with people whose views are different to yours.
  7. Find ‘super categories’ where there is difference (e.g. ‘we support different teams but we both like football; I’m catholic and you’re evangelical, but we’re both Christians’).
  8. Avoid reinforcement – make the effort to think positively.
  9. Don’t make important decisions about people when you are tired or under stress (even being hungry can affect the way we feel).
  10. Never be afraid to ask, remember the way in which unconscious bias can create social distance. To overcome this, ask what someone likes to be called, about their life experience, about their preference etc.